Top 10 Adoption Myths

10. You’ll never be able to love an adopted child as much as you would a child who is biologically related to you.
This is probably the fear that keeps some people from even considering adoption—and the one that in the end turns out to be the biggest myth of all. Adoptive parents sometimes feel pressured to bond with their children immediately, when the truth is that people who give birth to their children don’t always bond instantaneously, either. Whether you give birth to a child or adopt one, the reality is that you will fall in love, just sometimes not on day one, and that’s okay.

This article was originally published in the March/April 2009 issue of Conceive Magazine.

Related Topics: Adoption; International Adoption

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